The PIC criteria is what differentiates bullying from other forms of teasing or fighting. Use this criteria to determine whether a situation is bullying or normal peer conflict.
P - Purposeful
Bullying is carried out with the intent to harm and inflict emotional or physical pain.
I - Imbalance of Power
Bullies instill fear and use power and control to intimidate their victims. This power imbalance includes size difference, age, social status, and intelligence.
C - Continual
Bullying acts are repeated and happen over time, they are not one-time events.
Warning Signs - Be aware of warning signs that could indicate bullying: feeling ill in the morning, not wanting to go to school, not wanting to ride the bus, refusal to talk about the day at school, unexplained marks or bruises, drop in school performance, social isolation/withdrawal; change in friendships, coming home from school with torn clothes or destroyed property, unexplained crying, especially before going to sleep/nightmares, lack of confidence, changes in behavior towards friends and siblings-becoming more violent and becoming a bully.
Teach Assertiveness NOT Aggression Do not encourage your child to be aggressive or to strike back. Chances are that it is not his or her nature to do so. Rather, teach your child to be assertive. A bully often is looking for an indication that his or her threats or intimidation are working. Tears or passive acceptance only reinforces the bully's behavior. A child who does not respond as the bully desires is not likely to be chosen as a victim. For example, children can be taught to respond to aggression with humor and assertions rather than acquiescence.
Ask Don't Assume Everything is OK Don't assume everything is fine unless you hear otherwise. Ask your child how things are going, how he or she gets treated in school, who his or her friends are, etc. Pay attention to your child's mood and behavior. Student Strategies
The 3 R's
Recognize - bullying situations. Identify the criteria of bullying (P-I-C).
Refuse - the bullying using strategies such as DeBugging (see below). This can also include withholding support or participation in a hurtful event, choose not to encourage a bully with laughter or words, get help from adults, support a victim in private, distract the bully from their victim, offer support to the victim in the presence of the bully, or confront the bully.
Decide to ignore
Exit, or move away
Be friendly
Use firm words
Get adult help
Report - the bullying to adults/school staff.
Tattling vs. Reporting
• Tattling is when a student is trying to get someone in trouble.
• Reporting is when a student tries to keep someone safe.
Here are some helpful websites about bullying:
Stop Bullying
Internet Safety Talk with Kids
Rude vs. Mean vs. Bullying Behavior
Utah Pride Center
P - Purposeful
Bullying is carried out with the intent to harm and inflict emotional or physical pain.
I - Imbalance of Power
Bullies instill fear and use power and control to intimidate their victims. This power imbalance includes size difference, age, social status, and intelligence.
C - Continual
Bullying acts are repeated and happen over time, they are not one-time events.
Warning Signs - Be aware of warning signs that could indicate bullying: feeling ill in the morning, not wanting to go to school, not wanting to ride the bus, refusal to talk about the day at school, unexplained marks or bruises, drop in school performance, social isolation/withdrawal; change in friendships, coming home from school with torn clothes or destroyed property, unexplained crying, especially before going to sleep/nightmares, lack of confidence, changes in behavior towards friends and siblings-becoming more violent and becoming a bully.
Teach Assertiveness NOT Aggression Do not encourage your child to be aggressive or to strike back. Chances are that it is not his or her nature to do so. Rather, teach your child to be assertive. A bully often is looking for an indication that his or her threats or intimidation are working. Tears or passive acceptance only reinforces the bully's behavior. A child who does not respond as the bully desires is not likely to be chosen as a victim. For example, children can be taught to respond to aggression with humor and assertions rather than acquiescence.
Ask Don't Assume Everything is OK Don't assume everything is fine unless you hear otherwise. Ask your child how things are going, how he or she gets treated in school, who his or her friends are, etc. Pay attention to your child's mood and behavior. Student Strategies
The 3 R's
Recognize - bullying situations. Identify the criteria of bullying (P-I-C).
Refuse - the bullying using strategies such as DeBugging (see below). This can also include withholding support or participation in a hurtful event, choose not to encourage a bully with laughter or words, get help from adults, support a victim in private, distract the bully from their victim, offer support to the victim in the presence of the bully, or confront the bully.
Decide to ignore
Exit, or move away
Be friendly
Use firm words
Get adult help
Report - the bullying to adults/school staff.
Tattling vs. Reporting
• Tattling is when a student is trying to get someone in trouble.
• Reporting is when a student tries to keep someone safe.
Here are some helpful websites about bullying:
Stop Bullying
Internet Safety Talk with Kids
Rude vs. Mean vs. Bullying Behavior
Utah Pride Center